Do you see your life in cycles?

Life is about cycles.

When my mother passed away more than 20 years ago, it was a shock to all of us. It was discovered during her operation, cancer had spread to the liver, and there was nothing the doctors could do.

She was sent home to die, and she did a few weeks later.

We  went back to our lives with work, family, and home. My father understandably had a void in his life that took a time to heal.

Four years after my mother’s death, he remarried and lived ten years in his new marriage until his death.

We  enjoyed seeing a new adventurous side of my father and witnessed him  do and try new things.

In all of this, I observed  doing and learning new things has no age limit.

Life has cycles. There is death,  life, we mature,  grow, we fail and  learn and  continue.

Sadly, there are those that choose to stay stagnant. It could be fear of the unknown and not seeing fit to leave their comfort zone.

They miss out on the excitement the school of life has in store for them.

I have also found  what was important to me a few years ago, is no longer important today.

Why? because of the change that has occurred within me.

I have also learned when life gets tough and discouragement sets in, handing things over to God is essential. Not only for myself but for the  good of my family.

Then, you pick yourself up and keep pressing forward.

We should always try something new, even when we fail. No one can take away what was learned  in the process.

January is around the corner, and instead of the same new year’s resolution that never gets fulfilled, why not put on your list something different.

Some ideas:

  • Learn a new skill
  • Make new friends
  • Read a book out of your normal reading genre
  • Eat different foods
  • Study a new topic
  • Visit a new place

They key is, don´t stay still, keep moving.

Are you willing to try something new?  If so, what will that be?  I would love to hear your thoughts in the comment below.

 

Are you easily discouraged?

I remember a few years ago during a weekend getaway, we decided to go for a morning hike to reach the signal towers for the local television channel.

It did not take long for me to realize the hike would be a challenge.

mountain

As I continued with the trek, I made a few stops to rest as I was growing tired.

In one of those rest, I hear a buzzing sound and discover a swarm of bumblebees on the path, directly in front of me.

My husband now at the top of the hill waves and informs me he can see the towers.

What do I do? Should I go in the opposite direction of the swarm, get off the trail, hide or go back down?

I decided to pull the jacket I was wearing over my head and continue the trail to the top of the hill,  walking through the swarm and leaving the bumblebees behind.

I made it to the top of the mountain.

How often do you find yourself ready to give up, because of a distraction that showed up right before you completed your goal?

It has been noted that some  people do give up just before reaching their mark. If only they push through the swarm, they will make it.

Discouragement comes in many varieties, and it happens before, during and after you reach your goal. Discouragement wants you to turn around and go back down the mountain.

Discouragement will say what you are doing is a struggle.

What it will not say is who you become during the process.

If you tire with your hike, it is perfectly fine to take a rest.

Don´t stay there for very long.

What is more important is for you to stay on track and not lose sight of the plans, goals, and dreams that you have set before you.

What are your goals, dreams, visions, and plans? Has discouragement crept in, telling you it´s not worth it, it´s too difficult, you will never make, why try?

You may need to put your jacket over your head to block those distractions, and focus on the mountain peak in front of you.

Don´t give up.

When you block them out, you will find yourself on top of that mountain, ready to tackle your next goal.

Are you prepared to die?

I remember the day 9/11 happened. I was working at a call center at the time. All of us were glued to our computer monitors watching the news.  There was silence everywhere,  in shock at what had just occurred.

Pittier, Costa Rica

Pittier, Costa Rica

I could not imagine losing a loved one  that tragic day. Lives were lost. Families forever changed.

Pain.

Agony.

Suffering.

Death, it comes in many forms. Not long ago my adult son mourned the loss of his friend to suicide. A precious life lost and a family forever changed.

There is another type of death we need to consider.

Spiritual Death

The word says that Jesus came to give life abundantly, and He died so that we may have eternal life.

1 John 5:11  The testimony is this,  God has given us eternal life, and this life has its source in his Son.

Last week I had the privilege to join my pastor and a few others spreading the message of hope to an area of Costa Rica that has a high suicide rate and the development index is the third lowest in the country.

When our group of 12 arrived, we were  challenged and stretched in many ways.

These beloved people live day-to-day as farmers, coffee pickers, maids, gardeners and so forth. Work is scarce, and it was a privilege to be able to pray, share uplifting messages and bring hope.

Typical farmers home

Typical farmers home

We also distributed  Bibles to the homes in the community. We had testimonies of conversions to Christ, we prayed  for families, and had an overall sense of gratitude with the people.  Even drug addicts received us with open arms.

I am thankful I live in a country where I can share my faith freely without reprisals.

Bible distribution

Bible distribution

I learned  I can witness door to door and share the message of Christ and get excited about it.

I would not want my worst enemy to die without knowing Jesus.  We are living on this earth  for a short time, and  what matters most is where we spend eternity.

We never know when death may visit. Not long ago, my husband´s friend died as he was hit by a vehicle. The day before they spoke on the phone, and the next moment he was gone.

If you are unsure of where you will go when you pass this earth, I encourage you to accept Christ as your friend and into your life,  follow Him and live an abundant life.

When you accept Christ, the day you  die  your name will be called and it will be found written in the in the Lamb´s book of life, and your entrance to heaven will be secure.

I assure you, you will not be disappointed!

 

The benefits of delayed gratification

I recently read an article regarding delayed gratification. While this term is not new to me, I never really paid much attention to it, much less meditate on the phrase.

As I continued reading the article, this person delayed signing a book contract until he felt he could get a better offer.

It worked.

Stop

What is delayed gratification?

It  refers to the ability to put off something mildly fun or pleasurable now, in order to gain something that is more fun, pleasurable, or rewarding later.

I have six brothers and sisters.  My father worked the night shift at a factory, and my mother stayed home raising us kids.  I am sure  by reading this  you could guess  we did not have  extras. We had the basics, and we all turned out just fine.

I remember the trips to the grocery store in  the station wagon. As soon as the groceries were  out of the car and in the kitchen, we would begin eating our ¨extras.¨  We could never save a twinkie for tomorrow, as it would be gone.

I carried this habit into my adult life.  I felt  I needed to have things right away, or else they would be gone, for good.

I associated delayed gratification with poverty and going without, when in reality it is a way for you to receive the best.

Not having and waiting to have the better for your life are two very different things.

I  realized what I believed was a misconception.

Now that I have  a full understanding of this phrase, what are the benefits?

Delayed gratification produces:

  • Patience
  • Causes maturity
  • You will not be impulsive

Moreover,

  • You will  choose to invest  in yourself, and forgo the extras that come your way.
  • You can do without the goodies  that are purchased at the grocery store or the mall.
  • You can  say no to a phone call in order to listen to a webinar, read a book, or study the Bible more.
  • Your goal will be achieved quicker.
  • You will receive the better.

The best part  is  who you become in the process that is worth gold.

I am very blessed as I have an advantage. My husband supports me in my full-time ministry and in my studies, and I am very grateful to him and to God.

I trust one day  make him and my family proud, and to receive the better at the end.

What you should do while waiting

clockUpon arrival at the dentist, I was told to wait as the doctor was running behind with a patient.  The receptionist would  often say, ¨The doctor will see you soon.¨

The word  soon turned into an hour.

Time is precious, especially when one is busy.

I was prepared with kindle in purse and read for an hour.

In life, we wait for something  such as:

  • To be married
  • To have kids
  • Our big break
  • Our ministry to take off
  • To be noticed
  • Plans and projects to go through
  • and more

What about Jesus?

Jesus knew who he was, and yet He did not start his ministry until he reached the age of 30.  I think He waited  a long time to begin healing the sick, casting out demons,   and raising the dead.

Jesus did not step out of his appointed time.

Many times we want to rush into things, but there are other times where a waiting period is essential.

It´s called preparation, and key for our success.

We prepare our entire lives to begin our craft, our dream, our desire, and when we step out the first time, we fail.

Failure is essential for our  growth and learning, even though it hurts.

We get up and try again, and fail less each time.

With each failure, we learn, mature,  and gain insight into who we are and what we are made of.

We step out  yet again even if no one knows we exist.

The goal is to start and go from there.

  • In doing, we become successful.
  • In doing, we become proficient
  • In doing, we become experts
  • In doing, we find joy

Can we start and do something new and different?

Yes.  It is never too late to start pursuing your dreams.

It´s important to come to a place where you can pursue your passion, whatever that may be.  If  you start at a later time in your life  you have an advantage:  many years of preparation and life lessons which cannot be taken away from you.

While Jesus was waiting to begin His ministry, He was not wasting His time, and neither should we.

Spend your time wisely, not letting it slip out of your hands, so when the time come for you to go public, failure will be minimized and you will be noticed.